Loose phone morals?


I thought about my “perfect morning” homework.  I came to the conclusion that my routine is already ok…I don’t anticipate adding 20 min of sunrise meditation anytime soon….or becoming a Pinterest mom and having clothes and lunches set out by the door.

What needs to change in my morning is an important boundary.   I let the world in immediately when I open my eyes.  I typically grab my phone the moment I wake up.  I check all the things.  Happy, sad, angry, stressed, jealous, hateful, joyous, or rotten….I let it in…and the world’s energy becomes my energy.

Even though no one expects it, I respond to texts, and then grab my coffee and get on my computer.  I scan for urgent emails…briefly look at social media and then start writing.

The problem with my morning is obvious….it isn’t the busy-ness or efficiency.  From the second I wake up, it isn’t MY morning.  I turn it over to the world.  My mood becomes linked to the type of information I get from my phone.   Any clarity or purpose for my day is pushed out of my head.  I skip any awareness in how my mind or body feels and direct my attention externally.

So here is my plan….my new boundary will be that I charge my phone away from my bed.   I don’t touch it until after I have had 1 hour of phone free morning time….so essentially until 730 am.  Which gives me 30 min phone access before kids wake up.    8-845 is already phone free kid time.

That sounds impossibly hard.

I tell my 1-1 clients all the time…if you don’t establish boundaries you need, nobody will do it for you.   Right now, my phone controls too much.  It’s not my phone’s fault or the world’s fault.  I am the only one responsible.

Remember how I said that if you let your job cross all your boundaries at the end of the day you will likely only get a certificate before they replace you and forget about you.   Even a certificate is superior to what my phone will give me after I give up every morning and free moment to its power.

So that is my morning plan…did you give yours some thought?  Telling you helps keep me accountable.  I will keep to my promise and I’ll report back in a week or two to let you know how it is going.

Write me back and tell me what needs to change in your morning.